Ode To Giving A Shit...

I'm gonna keep it simple.  Men, if your women have a concern?  Hear her out and resolve it if you can.  No matter how small.  No matter how insignificant it may seem.  If she is giving this thing any brain power, make sure you get to it before imagination does.  How many times has it happened to you.  You're about to wash clothes and you find a piece of paper with a man's name on it.  Instead of asking, you automatically get into CSI mode and start trying to figure out who that is.  Never mind the fact that your woman has many pieces of paper with several names on them scattered all over the fuckin place.  This one!!!  This one has to be special because it's in her jean pocket.  The place where all secrets are kept.  Instead of asking, you follow every lead, take blood samples, check underwear, black light the entire house, tap her phone and finally get a PI to follow her around.  You poor pathetic fool lol  All you had to do was ask and if by chance she were fuckin around and you were doing all you needed to?  Eventually the truth will come to light and you will be rid of a headache that didn't appreciate you.  Fuck it...shit happens.  Be sad, lick your wounds and move forward...

Now, imagine your woman under the same circumstances.  All she needs is "I saw the way you looked at her" and it's off to the races.  Now it may seem as though I'm telling you to listen to every concern for your sake alone but because men are practical by nature I am presenting it this way but your motive should always be because you want to ease her mind.  For the most part men will feel angered at such a prospect but women will feel way worse as they tie emotion into everything.  If you love her, take every concern and do your best to give her the reassurances she needs.  Just make sure you actually give a shit and if you can't resolve it because it doesn't have anything to do with you then do your best to help if you can.  If you find that you can't then patiently wait it out.  She may have insecurities...deal with it.  She may have a bleak past....deal with it.  She may be going through something that has nothing to do with you but you are feeling its effects...deal with it.  Just be a man...and deal with it.  You knew all this goin in so why should it bother you now?  Love's instinct is to truly care and not simply brush things off by the time of the month or calling it unnecessary  drama.  If you love her...give a shit...I'm out

~Apollo