Tell me please how many of you boys have an attractive girlfriend that personally believe she is above your physical league? Ok, you on the left there with the big ass ears. Yes...you. Listen to me very carefully. I know you can with them ears. Your girl is into ears!!! Stop makin her feel bad because growin up your uncle constantly said "taxi!!!" and you developed a complex. Be happy that you have a hot girlfriend that sees something in you that you do not.
Now, I'm making light of a serious issue I feel the need to address since I have noticed myself to be a "trigger" for insecure boyfriends. Most of whom need not feel insecure in the slightest!!! Have you ever been standing on a train platform listening to your music, mindin your own damn business as a couple walks towards you. The girl looks your way and the boyfriend decides to block her view with his body. I have even seen boyfriends fuckin mouth "don't look at him!!!" until he feels the need to move from my view altogether. I get that shit in real life and I get it on social media. It is disgusting and sad to me when any display must be made based on something that is solely going on inside his insecure little mind. It has even made me change cars at times to spare the girl any more embarrassment and so begins my screed...
Insecurity is catalyzed by two main protagonists. First, the one that is self-inflicted. This is the one that doesn't know or cannot accept their level of attraction or inner worth. The second is caused by betrayal. This is the one that has been cheated on and is not looking for repeat so they will do everything in their power to exact a level of control that is unhealthy for any relationship. As for you insecure folk? You are most likely in the first category and have an unexplained hot woman that is head over heels for you. Your insecurities have you asking why. So let me talk at you all for a bit...
There are two reasons women choose the "so-so" over the "wow". First, you have the insecure women that want to be able to say without saying "I'm the best you'll get so don't fuck up". These women mistakenly believe that you will be a great catch and give her anything she wants but what she rarely ever adds into that equation is the insecurities that may exacerbate in you simply because she chose you. You may come to believe she is using you for whatever reason because of course, she can't be with you for you right? She must be fuckin the "wow" everytime she leaves your side. You will then do one of two things: Be passive in your discontent showing just signs that you are unhappy when she gets accolades from another or you will blatantly hound her on what she's doing and who she's with. Either case will seal your fate unless she is of the other kind...
The second woman just sees in you a good man. She's had the "wow" and found them superficial and empty so she sought out the "so-so" and found gold in you. Read that last part again..."gold". You have value to her and she is sticking with you no matter what. That is, until you fuck it up by your insecurities. There is one thing you have to understand my friend. No matter what fine ass woman you score irrespective of her intent, if you feel that she is above you physically and that her suitors are even higher, then your insecurities will always be a problem for both of you. It all depends on how you see yourself. Some of you are straight grimey and some women dig that but stand next to someone that isn't and you will feel like less. So if you know you can clean up nice then do so. Let her see that she has more in you than the "nice guy". Now, if you clean up nice and she starts to complain? Red flag that shit because chances are she is the insecure kind that went for you because she wanted the physical upper-hand. If she gets all giddy and wants to show you off, then she is for you as you are and is elated that her choice not only runs excellent, but has a great exterior as well.
Normally I would be telling women to choose equal or above their pay-grade when it comes to physical attraction due to the insecurity issue but since I've done that already, I figured I'd give my boys some advice. I have a brother that had himself a fine ass woman that got hit on everywhere she went. He did not see himself in her league so to overcompensate for his physical shortcomings, he 1) Rocked her in bed and 2) Paid her bills and literally kept her home in order. Yet still with all this, there were things she would do in front of him he considered disrespectful because she knew his insecurities. After 8 months of her giving him shit in different ways, I gave him some advice.
I let him know that after all he's been doing, he not only deserved her respect but gratitude as well as any real human being would offer freely. I let him know that she was well aware she would never find another him and that it was time he voiced his displeasure with what was bothering him. Now I'm not talking about some petty shit she was doing. I just can't say what she was doing because it would give away who I'm talking about but I can tell you that anyone that would hear it would say he was crazy to take it...even women. Gents, he put his foot down and she complied. To keep him, she became a better woman...for awhile. Old habits die hard and he finally said "fuck it". You know why he said "fuck it?" He found the thing he was missing within himself. His value...
I don't give a shit how fine she is and how many men want to do her. If she has chosen you in earnest, then you shouldn't have a thing to worry about nor should you need assurances every 5 minutes as her character will do that on it's own. If she decides to fuck shit up? Then be happy that you lost someone that didn't deserve you and move the fuck on whistling a tune. Don't ever allow your insecurities to become the reason for your break-up. Use this opportunity to see the greater man she sees in you. Once you do...own it my brothers...I'm out
~Moses Apollo
Now, I'm making light of a serious issue I feel the need to address since I have noticed myself to be a "trigger" for insecure boyfriends. Most of whom need not feel insecure in the slightest!!! Have you ever been standing on a train platform listening to your music, mindin your own damn business as a couple walks towards you. The girl looks your way and the boyfriend decides to block her view with his body. I have even seen boyfriends fuckin mouth "don't look at him!!!" until he feels the need to move from my view altogether. I get that shit in real life and I get it on social media. It is disgusting and sad to me when any display must be made based on something that is solely going on inside his insecure little mind. It has even made me change cars at times to spare the girl any more embarrassment and so begins my screed...
Insecurity is catalyzed by two main protagonists. First, the one that is self-inflicted. This is the one that doesn't know or cannot accept their level of attraction or inner worth. The second is caused by betrayal. This is the one that has been cheated on and is not looking for repeat so they will do everything in their power to exact a level of control that is unhealthy for any relationship. As for you insecure folk? You are most likely in the first category and have an unexplained hot woman that is head over heels for you. Your insecurities have you asking why. So let me talk at you all for a bit...
There are two reasons women choose the "so-so" over the "wow". First, you have the insecure women that want to be able to say without saying "I'm the best you'll get so don't fuck up". These women mistakenly believe that you will be a great catch and give her anything she wants but what she rarely ever adds into that equation is the insecurities that may exacerbate in you simply because she chose you. You may come to believe she is using you for whatever reason because of course, she can't be with you for you right? She must be fuckin the "wow" everytime she leaves your side. You will then do one of two things: Be passive in your discontent showing just signs that you are unhappy when she gets accolades from another or you will blatantly hound her on what she's doing and who she's with. Either case will seal your fate unless she is of the other kind...
The second woman just sees in you a good man. She's had the "wow" and found them superficial and empty so she sought out the "so-so" and found gold in you. Read that last part again..."gold". You have value to her and she is sticking with you no matter what. That is, until you fuck it up by your insecurities. There is one thing you have to understand my friend. No matter what fine ass woman you score irrespective of her intent, if you feel that she is above you physically and that her suitors are even higher, then your insecurities will always be a problem for both of you. It all depends on how you see yourself. Some of you are straight grimey and some women dig that but stand next to someone that isn't and you will feel like less. So if you know you can clean up nice then do so. Let her see that she has more in you than the "nice guy". Now, if you clean up nice and she starts to complain? Red flag that shit because chances are she is the insecure kind that went for you because she wanted the physical upper-hand. If she gets all giddy and wants to show you off, then she is for you as you are and is elated that her choice not only runs excellent, but has a great exterior as well.
Normally I would be telling women to choose equal or above their pay-grade when it comes to physical attraction due to the insecurity issue but since I've done that already, I figured I'd give my boys some advice. I have a brother that had himself a fine ass woman that got hit on everywhere she went. He did not see himself in her league so to overcompensate for his physical shortcomings, he 1) Rocked her in bed and 2) Paid her bills and literally kept her home in order. Yet still with all this, there were things she would do in front of him he considered disrespectful because she knew his insecurities. After 8 months of her giving him shit in different ways, I gave him some advice.
I let him know that after all he's been doing, he not only deserved her respect but gratitude as well as any real human being would offer freely. I let him know that she was well aware she would never find another him and that it was time he voiced his displeasure with what was bothering him. Now I'm not talking about some petty shit she was doing. I just can't say what she was doing because it would give away who I'm talking about but I can tell you that anyone that would hear it would say he was crazy to take it...even women. Gents, he put his foot down and she complied. To keep him, she became a better woman...for awhile. Old habits die hard and he finally said "fuck it". You know why he said "fuck it?" He found the thing he was missing within himself. His value...
I don't give a shit how fine she is and how many men want to do her. If she has chosen you in earnest, then you shouldn't have a thing to worry about nor should you need assurances every 5 minutes as her character will do that on it's own. If she decides to fuck shit up? Then be happy that you lost someone that didn't deserve you and move the fuck on whistling a tune. Don't ever allow your insecurities to become the reason for your break-up. Use this opportunity to see the greater man she sees in you. Once you do...own it my brothers...I'm out
~Moses Apollo
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