"She is the sun...I am the moon. The earth cannot exist...one without the other. Call me back into your embrace. Allow me to see your loving face...again"
In these days of confusion among the sexes, I find myself among the growing few that still gladly hold to the beautiful differences found between men and women. Where aptitude for logic is met with unrivaled emotional content creating a perfect union. Each requiring individual growth coming close enough to perfection to deem them "whole". Of course each can come close to mastering the others innate power but a man will not know emotion as well as a woman...logic will oftentimes get in the way. Nor will a woman know logic as well as a man...as emotion will oftentimes get in the way as well. As a man of logic raised by an even greater man of logic, I was wise enough to know that I knew nothing. So I took the time to learn from four of the strongest women I'll ever meet without surrendering any part of my manhood. I just added a strength I was naturally deficient in instead...
My Dominican powerhouse (my mother), my Ecuadorian stability (my step-mother) and my Puerto Rican mentor (my spiritual mother). In these three I saw women formed and strong with an aptitude for logic housed in emotional content. As a young man, I couldn't see it but as I got older, I found their strength impressive. Watching others falter under the same strain these women seemed to easily endure was enough to impress anyone. When I married my beautiful wife (now ex) at 18...I finally got to see how they became so strong in the first place. Throughout our 17 years of marriage, I was blessed to both witness and share in her growth as a woman. After our divorce, our relationship evolved into a dutiful honorbound friendship built on love from which I've been doubly blessed to witness even greater growth. From them I learned how emotional content can be housed in logic and I will forever be grateful to God for that blessing. These became the standard that I have come to instinctively look for in others. A standard I have seen glimpses of becoming more common. Yet sadly, not by choice...but out of necessity instead.
Today, I see men neutered and detached from their logistical aptitude believing it prudent to lay aside all forms of manhood under the guise of "understanding". A false definition of understanding that looks to "replace" what comes naturally as opposed to "adding" to it instead. A dangerous error that has caused men to retract from all that made them strong. Today, the sense that used to be common has become relative and if we are to be honest about what we are living through...it is based on now seeing everything through an emotional prism. Folks...emotion without logic creates a dangerous imbalance. An imbalance that has frighteningly even made its way into the scientific community. Yet in all this mess, I see glimmers of hope. A new breed of women rising up comparable to the ones I've come to learn from. Women that have decried this imbalance have become the front line in what I consider a one sided war for gender supremacy. They've seen the folly in this idiocy and have decided to fight for true equality instead...the return of that beautiful balance. It's fascinating to watch and thankfully...men are now taking notice...
I watch them in life and on social media taking on the mantle of strength as they must. Providing an example to men that should be doing the same. Creating in men a sense of urgency. Waking up a strength in them they were taught was toxic. Beautiful women inspiring men to fight. A grace that I have seen in the best relationships. Where a good woman will stand by her man...a great woman pushes them to become more. I see it in the single mother struggling against an inefficient deadbeat, in reporters that have decided that truth takes preeminence over bias, in celebrities that stand apart from the herd, in the unrepentant activist that shows no fear and in the everyday workhorse that stands in the place where men used to stand. They go on about doing as they must and for most, their struggles keep them from knowing just how truly inspiring they are to the men that have retained the truth of what they are. Due to this mess, the mention of differences has been shamed into silence by the zeitgeist producing a lack of appreciation for what women have taken on. I watch them in awe and am truly thankful to do whatever I can in this age they are purposed to inhabit.
As for men...they must become the men they were born to be. Not the caricatured savage they have accepted as truth but the true men of honor and strength their design demands. Towards that end, we who have stood must do what we can by all measure of example...and so we will. God bless the age of woman and the age of humanity that is to come. After that? Well now that's a different story altogether lol Much love...I'm out...
~Moses Apollo
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