"...I want to drink you sober. I want to feel you...want you to be my lover..."
So I have stolen the name of this teaching tool to identify the novice that does his best to read up on books to satisfy his lover. Yet instead of following his own path after absorbing the benefit of another's experience, this novice adhere's to the letter of all he reads and begins to implement a "one size fits all" approach. Memorizing technique and movement...a lick here, a twist there along with the gratuitous "what's my name?" showmanship lol Fine, good, nice...but at some point, while he's doing his "thing", he looks up at her and her eyes are open like she just passin time. He sees her mouth the words "what the fuck" lmao At this point all he learned goes out the door and he begins to rehearse in his mind all the chapters with the intention of throwing everything at her but the kitchen sink (unless of course he thinks she might get off on that too lol). What a fuckin disaster. With confidence in his abilities shot, performance anxiety kicks in and the hard rocket he was sportin turns into a wet noodle...that's all she wrote folks.
"I'm sorry baby, I'm just really tired"
What did he do wrong? Was it the books? Was it his adherence to the letter? No and no...it was much more than that. Folks, some sex books can be priceless so long as they are kept in proper perspective. When a man writes a sex book, the reader should not look at what he did to satisfy this nameless woman but rather what state she was in that allowed that spring to burst. The dirty little secret is something so simple most will dismiss it and opt for some "porn-learnin" lol Good, a part of me don't want you little boys to know this anyway.
It's less than technique. It's less than bravado. It's all about her...
In order for a woman to reach orgasm there has to be a level of trust that allows her to be that vulnerable with you. Now I'm not talking about chemically induced inhibition. That shit usually turns out sloppy, dead and forgettable. I'm talking about that inhibition you will remember and revel in. You're sober, lucid...and given in. You must create that environment where there is beauty in every naked flaw. Where she is not judging her body as if in front of a mirror. She knows you see her and she is still beautiful...desired. This is a place where there is no judgement towards what she wants to say or do...you are down no matter what (unless of course she's a freak and you have an aversion to objects making their way up your ass, yeah that's kind of where I draw the line) This is like setting up the canvas to begin painting. If this is constant with the one you love, set-up comes naturally...it's "easy". Now, we may have a bunch of assholes out there thinkin..."shit I can do this, I know just what to say". Well I got news for you little boys. This sort of thing takes depth and maturity. Why? Because in order for this to be effective...it must be sincere. Oh shit, there's that word!!! I know I just lost about 75% of you right there. Go back to your "porn-learnin"...cause yeah uh, all that's real.
After your canvas is sprawled out before you, it's time for you to paint like a blind man. Feeling your way through. Relying on subtle movements and what they mean. Where are you going wrong and where you going right is all there in her body language. Take time to learn it, to breathe it in. So that when it's time to exhale, you will only express "her". Now my friends...you can paint. You can create nights longed for and remembered. Most go in looking to conquer and that's where they fail. Go in looking to sincerely surrender and that's where you'll find your reward.
What is my reward? Knowing that I had a small but instrumental part in the moments bliss of someone that I deeply care for. For me, that's more than enough...
~Apollo
Shit I need a drink lol
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