Had a conversation today with a man askin for advice. He gave me the gist of what he was going through and I found it hysterical given what he decided to do about his dilemma. Now what he decided to do is something that I'll keep to myself so allow me to continue without the funny details. This man was messaging someone he had met on an online dating site. Seemed like a self-assured woman. A nurse with a 4 year old and a body. Things were going ok but he began to notice that there was way more unmerited push than there was pull and although he thought it ok to just "hit it", I told him he would be crazy to do so. Why?
Well folks, I'll keep it plain. If you are with someone that seems to have a constant chip on their shoulder or feels the need to have a "come back" to every request (even the simple ones), that person is someone vying for the notion of supremacy even at the expense of truth. You could read off a mathematical equation signed off by a PhD and they would argue with you simply so you won't feel superior given their agreement. That my friends is someone that is full of shit without needing to be and something that you DO NOT want to have to deal with on the regular. The most exhausting thing you will ever face is trying to explain a basic truth to someone that believes you have an ulterior agenda of dominance. Oh and don't even get me started on the re-litigants. The ones that re-visit the same damn argument every few weeks or months. You have an argument, you settle on it thinkin you have peace then all of a sudden, they want to argue the same thing all over again as though this time, it's something new. As though they never came to a mutual understanding. It's like you're in an episode of the Twilight Zone. Forced to relive complaints and cares you thought were buried by two understanding adults. I just quit trying because it makes no sense wasting that much energy. Most people like this know you are correct but do not want to accept what you're saying for fear they are capitulating to you. It is THE dumbest thing I have ever had to deal with so I came to the conclusion that I would no longer participate. They want to be wrong, it's got nothing to do with you. Let em have it and let em go. It's like talking to a wall that only has prepared comebacks electronically taped onto it and that ain't nothin but silly pride. A pride that always cometh before the fall...
What's even more hilarious is that these folk portend to be strong and independent. They think that disagreeing proves they are unafraid to speak their minds without considering if what they are speaking makes any real sense or if it's something they truly believe. A truly strong and independant soul doesn't have to prove it by contesting every little thing. They are self assured. A trait that engenders a strong humility that accepts error with a profound sense of grace and class. It doesn't take much for them to see an error and say sorry with sincere humility. That impresses me because I know how hard that can be. That shows real strength. Now if that is you and you have an asshole as a mate, they will in error see this humility as a weakness to exploit. If this is the case, then you are not with someone that deserves you. Unfortunately there-in lies most of the problem. Too many assholes have populated the earth. Creating a group of defensive individuals unready to compromise or understand and thus, way too many adults ready to act like children for the sake of a phantom "upper-hand" that doesn't mean a fuckin thing.
So folks, if you know you don't have an asshole then trust they will accept you with all your vulnerabilities. Be yourselves...try to stop playin the fuckin game. You're gonna be wrong and you're gonna be right. It's fine. Now, if you find yourself on the receiving end of this bullshit...walk away. Life's too short to be yelled at for nothing or to be painted as a dick because you ain't playin along. Their loss. Just one little caveat though. The second you stop playing...your eyes will zoom in on how many still are. You'll see how much bullshit there is in today's mating game and in truth, you will need to look for reasons not to be alone. Just sayin, nothing turns me off more than unnecessary games. It's like sittin in a fuckin lounge chair chillin and someone decides to throw you a fuckin football thinkin it's ok. I dig my peace...and I like it cool but if somethin ain't right, it ain't right. Much love and good night.
~Apollo
Well folks, I'll keep it plain. If you are with someone that seems to have a constant chip on their shoulder or feels the need to have a "come back" to every request (even the simple ones), that person is someone vying for the notion of supremacy even at the expense of truth. You could read off a mathematical equation signed off by a PhD and they would argue with you simply so you won't feel superior given their agreement. That my friends is someone that is full of shit without needing to be and something that you DO NOT want to have to deal with on the regular. The most exhausting thing you will ever face is trying to explain a basic truth to someone that believes you have an ulterior agenda of dominance. Oh and don't even get me started on the re-litigants. The ones that re-visit the same damn argument every few weeks or months. You have an argument, you settle on it thinkin you have peace then all of a sudden, they want to argue the same thing all over again as though this time, it's something new. As though they never came to a mutual understanding. It's like you're in an episode of the Twilight Zone. Forced to relive complaints and cares you thought were buried by two understanding adults. I just quit trying because it makes no sense wasting that much energy. Most people like this know you are correct but do not want to accept what you're saying for fear they are capitulating to you. It is THE dumbest thing I have ever had to deal with so I came to the conclusion that I would no longer participate. They want to be wrong, it's got nothing to do with you. Let em have it and let em go. It's like talking to a wall that only has prepared comebacks electronically taped onto it and that ain't nothin but silly pride. A pride that always cometh before the fall...
What's even more hilarious is that these folk portend to be strong and independent. They think that disagreeing proves they are unafraid to speak their minds without considering if what they are speaking makes any real sense or if it's something they truly believe. A truly strong and independant soul doesn't have to prove it by contesting every little thing. They are self assured. A trait that engenders a strong humility that accepts error with a profound sense of grace and class. It doesn't take much for them to see an error and say sorry with sincere humility. That impresses me because I know how hard that can be. That shows real strength. Now if that is you and you have an asshole as a mate, they will in error see this humility as a weakness to exploit. If this is the case, then you are not with someone that deserves you. Unfortunately there-in lies most of the problem. Too many assholes have populated the earth. Creating a group of defensive individuals unready to compromise or understand and thus, way too many adults ready to act like children for the sake of a phantom "upper-hand" that doesn't mean a fuckin thing.
So folks, if you know you don't have an asshole then trust they will accept you with all your vulnerabilities. Be yourselves...try to stop playin the fuckin game. You're gonna be wrong and you're gonna be right. It's fine. Now, if you find yourself on the receiving end of this bullshit...walk away. Life's too short to be yelled at for nothing or to be painted as a dick because you ain't playin along. Their loss. Just one little caveat though. The second you stop playing...your eyes will zoom in on how many still are. You'll see how much bullshit there is in today's mating game and in truth, you will need to look for reasons not to be alone. Just sayin, nothing turns me off more than unnecessary games. It's like sittin in a fuckin lounge chair chillin and someone decides to throw you a fuckin football thinkin it's ok. I dig my peace...and I like it cool but if somethin ain't right, it ain't right. Much love and good night.
~Apollo
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