Just Another Day...

With you as my centerpiece and me at my center.  We call, we don't, we greet, we don't...and somehow it's all OK in my mind.  I see the "sign watchers" and wonder how they can go through all that unscathed by the mundanity of it all and then I remember...I am one myself.  Except that I don't look for the obvious signs as those can have many interpretations.  I look for signs that lead to the heart of the matter.  I read the memes on Facebook and understand why there is no longevity to relationships.  Too many arbitrary lines are drawn in the sand without the benefit of individualized context.  It's a great thing to find a friend that knows when you're grumpy not to call you a dick but instead laughs it off as a stupid character trait.  I have many like this and I have frankly found them to be the most honest.

Someone once complained to me about a very dear friend of hers that seemed to always want to "one-up" her in public settings.  She wondered how someone so close and so caring to her could be so competitive.  She was her confidante and was always there for her in times of need but as she put it "could be a real asshole sometimes".  I said "then what's the problem, just dump her and move on"...knowing she wouldn't.  She paused and said "I don't know...she is a really good friend most of the time".  I said "well then, there is your answer, she may be an asshole but she is YOUR asshole".

Folks, nobody in this world will ever be all you want them to be but 7 graces out of the 10 you require on your list ain't bad.  Draw your lines and do your best to hit those marks.  If their flaw doesn't demean you.  If their flaw doesn't put you in danger.  If their flaw is something you and those closest to you can live with, you will come to understand why they are still around.  You have opted to use your scale of judgement and have found that their good outweighs their bad.  You know in which areas they will fail you already and have come to accept that because in the areas they don't fail you...they excel as friends.  I have no idea why I decided to write this so if it serves you well...BING!!!  I'm out

~Moses