"Some love is just a lie of the soul. A constant battle for the ultimate state of control. After you've heard lie upon lie, there can hardly be a question of why..."
Here ye oh beautiful women and some of you "in demand" gents!!!
I come baring gifts of yet another glaringly obvious ploy that "shits and giggles" often tend to hide. I have oft times spoken to you about the need I have for transparency and now I will explain my reasoning as to why. It all begins with my disgust for gamesmanship when it comes to intimacy and love. Why you might ask? Allow me to explain...
My insistence for transparency is a reflexive recoil from what I have seen others do that has utterly disgusted me. So I decided long ago that I would take on transparency as a code to live by when it comes to most things...especially intimacy. Folks, pure intimacy is dependant on trust and without it, you will fail miserably at achieving what intimacy is meant to accomplish: the purest connection available to mankind. I will begin any courtship by being completely transparent when it comes to all the negatives I believe will drive one away. At which point an informed choice can be made by the woman I am talking to. She will then decide if she wants to continue the courtship, write me off altogether or keep me as a friend. Why do this? Am I not risking a hit by telling the truth? Yes, but what I gain is far more valuable to me. Respect and the proof provided that I can always be trusted. Too many these days reveal just enough to get the person they are courting comfortable to continue in said courtship. Leaving out details that would normally red light the person they are courting. Oh these "liars by omission" plan on telling them...just not yet. Why? In order to lull them into a false sense of security and break down the walls long enough to get into their heart and/or mainly...their pants. They rightfully figure that given enough time, they can take what they want and provide any excuse they want once their dirty details emerge to be able to take even more. They count on a false intimacy developing and once that happens, all decisions are usually made by emotion as opposed to logic.
I write this as someone that has been on the receiving end of this ploy and as such, I have found it deplorable. I give no one the green light to my whole person until I know and confirm they are telling me the absolute truth about themselves so I begin the process by opening up myself to rejection right away. This way I stay true to my honor and I show them by example what I expect in return. I have known friends that I have had for years give me parts of a story to do the same. Something that I find tragic because years should have built up enough equity for total transparency but when someone wants something from you, they will say anything you want to hear to take it...especially in this age of "me". One must accept a universal truth: All things will come to light one day...ALL things. Which is why it is always best to be and stay transparent. A beautiful soul once said to me that "transparency is a motherfucker" and she was right. She had just told me something that wasn't "wrong" per say but just knew I wouldn't like. Yet because she told me, I naturally recoiled for a few seconds and then came to the place her transparency took me to be able to say..."At least she's being honest about it". You see, in most cases humans need a redeeming quality in order to afford someone grace after they have committed an error and immediate transparency does the job. There is nothing wrong with failing (outright or in someone's eyes) but there is everything wrong with lying about it to keep the illusion of one's piety and/or suitability in tact. Think on this the next time someone tells you a story that has you thinking "there's definitely more to this story".
Folks, no matter how much of a good time you've had or how long you've known them, don't let anyone fake you out for the green light. Keep that red light on until you have your questions fully answered and verified. Just keep in mind that if they lied about something once, they're probably still lying to you. I like to believe you're better than the people that do this. Trust somewhat but fully verify...I'm out...
~Moses
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