"Sometimes I flow staccato, strip you of vibrato. While you be acting macho, I try and switch it up. I see the games you play and the traps you lay. Not fit to fall in but I let you play them anyway..."
In my youth I was a skirt chaser. I was a young man and I didn't know who I was yet so that's fine...it was expected. As I got older, I started to notice it was all too easy surmising that there must be something about me they wanted...fine. When I married, I thought I was in a "safe zone" but found out that even then I had to take care how I spoke and carried myself lest I give anyone the false assumption that I was available. I learned rather quickly that the ring was not a safeguard against come-ons and traps so as yet still...it was up to me to make it clear. By the time I divorced, I knew all I needed to know as a married man but knew nothing about being single so I took my time to learn.
Still, for whatever reason (take your pick) in demand, I found it all too easy. Even easier than when I was a youth skirt chasing. I found the aggressive woman wanted something surface, the coy woman wanted to control anyone in demand for the sake of pride and the demure woman wanted to be seen as such to fool the unknowing into believing they were the type most longed for. The type that are feared and wanted the most by men. What type am I speaking of?
The woman that seeks for nothing but her own growth. This woman doesn't care about praying for, looking for or finding a "man" and as such, is the most frightening and alluring of them all. I watched as men had no words to capture her attention with. No lines or games to play. There was no entry point to her and what's more? She knew it and didn't care. She knew something that I came to understand by watching her and others like her. In the so-called dating game, most swim the ocean looking for fish. Some put out bait and wait for bites but there are the very few that don't fish at all because they know that are the catch for not just any fish, but quality fish. She knew that if she put out her bait, every fish would bite. She also knew that to take that swim would be too dangerous for her safety as every single man would pull her down. So she went about the business of self-improvement and steered clear of every play in the book. Turns out that only men of character saw beyond her looks to her worth and when they did, she knew it. They were few are far between but when you know what you're worth, you only allow the best access to you.
So impressed by this, I wound up taking the same tact. Understand that every time you put yourself "out there" way too much you open yourself up to use and abuse. Men and women will see the needy as an opportunity to take even if they have to pretend to give for a bit. Especially if you are attractive. Now I'm not saying which way is right and which way is wrong. I also understand the need for companionship. I just find it more prudent to concern oneself with self-improvement and let those that are truly interested start the courting process with the proper respect and motivation required. Just yesterday I'm walking the street and some woman asks if she can "touch me" like this is gonna get her somewhere. No, not happening. When they are right, they will do right. Sometimes you will meet a like minded individual and you guys will just click on deeper levels. Sometimes you will be interested in someone and make a subtle move to see if any interest is there. If so, they will then take the lead and you can watch how they approach you. You can gauge their motivation and make your decision on your own terms. Given your worth, you will take care not to come on too strong but see how everything feels slowly. Ask yourself these questions: Is this person at your level? Will they be an asset or an impediment to your growth? Will this person be conscientious of your issues? Add any other details you may require and I'm not talking about cars and money. There is a reason why it will seem as though I reveal much about my finances but I take painstaking care never to disclose everything. I had an incident where I gave a potential mate money for something and they automatically assumed I was wealthy. So much so that they blurted it out in conversation. After that I made like I was broke most of the time and her demeanor changed...lesson learned.
Always remember that if fishing is easy for you then chances are very good that you're gonna pick up some empty cans and rotted fish along the way. Sifting through all that garbage will take up way too much of your precious time. Concentrate on improving yourself and let them come to you. This way, you will always be able to weed out the quality from the shit. Now if you think calling someone shit is extreme you need to either get out more or open your eyes a bit more. If all they want to do is lure you into a false sense of security to be able to use you as a fuckdoll? Yeah, I'd call that trash...I'm out
Oh and for the record? My game is called "no game". I've met the most beautiful souls that way...including the pretty. So yeah, I stopped fishing years ago...
~Moses
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